I love reading the verse at the top of our blog post. It brings me back to being pregnant and picturing God as He was "knitting" together our three precious babies. And He knit each of them together uniquely different and extremely special. We recently found out that Maggie has sensory processing disorder (SPD). I had absolutely no idea about SPD prior to all of the evaluations and testing that we had done this past winter. And each kid with SPD is different in how they respond to their sensory sensitivities. For Maggie, she is sensitive to temperature, sounds, taste, clothing, light, and transitions. She is a risk seeker who finds comfort from physical activity like spinning, swinging, jumping, crashing, running, etc. She smells things stronger than others - gags if she smells garbage, throws up after someone else throws up, for example. She feels temperatures to the extreme. If she's cold, she is really cold and the same with heat. Things can set Maggie off and a temper tantrum ensues. 

That is the area we are struggling with the most. We haven't figured out how to prevent what I call explosive episodes where she gets extremely angry and can't calm herself down. Unfortunately, SPD isn't overly recognized as having forms of treatment that insurances will pay for. Our hope is that she will get the therapy she needs (mainly occupational therapy) once she enters school as we are pretty sure this will impact her in that environment. We are still learning about SPD and have more questions than answers. We do know that we have felt supported by our friends and family so much as we uncover this diagnosis. We will continue to need that help and encouragement as it can be so difficult to see someone that you love struggle with something and not know how to help.  She is so precious to us and we praise God for knitting together such a wonderful little girl. 

"Do I look pretty, Mama?"

This story, How to Talk to Little Girls, got me thinking. On a daily basis I get asked by my little girls if they look pretty. Why is that so important already to them at 4 years old? It is scary! I have always struggled with self-esteem and unfortunately have placed a greater emphasis on outer beauty rather than inner beauty (a struggle to this day). So are they getting this message from me?

Lately, I have been trying to talk about how everyone is beautiful exactly how God made them. I talk about how different people are and have corrected the girls when they say they don't like people based on physical appearance. But it is a struggle. Princesses are beautiful and Prince Charming wants to marry them because they are beautiful. Well, lately we have been changing the stories a bit. Prince Charming found the Princess to be kind and loving and intelligent. Who knows if this will make any difference. We are attracted to beautiful things. An ugly Barbie doll wouldn't sell.

I guess I feel compelled to do something or hopefully encourage them in the right ways because of having three daughters. Does anyone else struggle with all of this? Any ideas or thoughts to share?

More articles to read:

http://motherhood.yourway.net/why-i-tell-my-girls-theyre-beautiful-often/

http://jeffdlawrence.com/2011/12/23/some-thoughts-on-how-to-talk-to-little-girls/

COOPER

We added a new family member last night! And yes, I know many of you are going to think we are crazy. I can barely handle taking care of 3 kids and a blind 11 year old dog so why add a puppy to our crazy household? In fact, when we inherited a rabbit from Thad's parents, my dad said we needed a bunny like we need a hole in the head. So with a puppy he is probably saying it's like two holes in the head. Oh well, since when have I ever listened to my dad :)  

Cooper is 10 weeks old (shares a birthday with my sister-in-law, Kristy) and is a Maltipoo (maltese & poodle mix) we found from someone selling them here in Rockford. He is so sweet and the girls are already in love with him. 

I will keep you posted on the adventures of Cooper....

Friday Night Family Movie Night!

Highlights from the past year…

(A friend told me yesterday that she has given up on me blogging, which sounded like a challenge to me...so here I am!)

I had really good intentions of updating the blog more in 2011. Too bad it didn't happen. So here are some highlights from our past year for those of you devoted individuals still checking our blog…lol.

Well on December 18, we had lived in our new house 1 Year! We have enjoyed each season in our new country setting. The girls have enjoyed all the space and playing in the wooded areas around our house. They love going for tractor rides (actually lawn mower rides) and driving Thad’s car in the yard. Yep, you read that right. Thad lets them sit on his lap and “drive” around the yard. They think they are pretty big stuff doing that with their Daddy.

The girls turned 4 in July and are at such a fun age. They get so excited about things and want to know about everything. The amount of questions I answer in a day is mind boggling. (No wonder there are days I don’t feel like talking anymore when Thad gets home.) Their questions are all those philosophical and religious questions that really cause me to stop and think about how to answer them. For example: Does God sleep? Why not? Will we sleep in Heaven? Does God have beds for us? How do we get there? It is exhausting but also nice to see that they are thinking about more that just whether or not Dora will get over the bridge where the grumpy old troll lives. BTW, for the record, I can’t stand kid’s programming. Seriously, mind numbing stuff! And how come EVERY Disney movie has scary parts? But I shouldn't complain because its shows and movies that actually allow me to get things done around here.

I have been attending a MOPS program now for my 3^rd year. I have made some wonderful friends from that experience who have been such a great support and encouragement through parenting young children. I don’t think I could have made it the past few years without them. God is good in supplying what we need when we need it. If only I would remember that:)

My family has had an interesting past year. My mom broke her ankle December last year requiring surgery right around the time we were moving. Then in the spring, she and my grandma were in a horrible car accident where my mom had a broken sternum and my grandma a broken neck. We were all so shaken up of the accident and have realized how things could have easily turned out much worse than they did. Earlier this fall, we learned that my Dad has prostate cancer. His prostate was removed in November but unfortunately all of the cancer was not removed. We are waiting to find out if he needs radiation treatments to destroy the rest of the cancer cells. My mom had eye surgery in January for something I don't completely understand and get a little queasy thinking about because anything to do with the eyes kind of creeps me out. However, the surgery went well and we are Praising the Lord for that. We trust that the Lord will continue to provide for our family and show us His love and care.

I am gradually learning more about this new community we are now living in. I am still learning the new grocery store layout (why can’t they all be the same?) and make weekly trips to the Rockford Goodwill. The library here is wonderful and the girls are enjoying the time they spend with their Daddy, usually once a week. I have gotten involved with the township we live in and am currently working on a project to get a bike path in our area. It is really just an excuse to get together with other adults and have adult conversations. The school district seems really good here BUT really big, which is going to take some getting used to. The girls will hopefully begin next fall in a Young Fives program. They are very excited. Samantha has already picked out what she wants to wear on her first day of school.

Thad continues to be the best Daddy in the world. The girls adore him. I start getting questions around 2pm each day wondering when Daddy will be home. Believe me, I start watching the clock about then too! It makes me think about the quote I have heard “The days are long, but the years are short.” What a great description of motherhood.

The girls are certainly developing their own distinct likes and dislikes and personalities are much more pronounced now. Here’s a glimpse at each girl:

Keegan has a very tender heart. She cares deeply about her sisters and others wanting everything to be fair and everyone to be happy. She tends to mother her sisters and go along with the others when they suggest a playtime activity or game. Keegan is very girly loving anything princess. She desperately wants to take ballet classes and would wear dance costumes on a daily basis, if I let her. She does, however, prefer wearing dresses everyday. Sometimes layers of clothing are on this child 1-2 dresses, 1-2 skirts, a shirt, tights, and on very important days, a tutu.

Samantha is very dramatic and emotional. She is passionate about things and I swear she has a future in the theater. She is great at arguing, which also makes me wonder about a future lawyer. She comes up with most of the activities and then tells others how things are going to be. She is already concerned about the clothes she wears and her hair having to look in the mirror to make sure she approves of everything before going out. Oh my, the teenage years frighten me!

maggie is our Tom-boy; or as she calls it, “Thomas-boy.” (I am guessing that is the proper term…lol). She is incredibly athletic and on the go all the time! She loves anything boy and wears only boy clothes. She is also incredibly cuddly and loves watching movies and eating popcorn. I predict that Maggie will be watching out for her sisters in the future and no one will be messing with them (or breaking up with them) without it going through Maggie first!

Spring is FINALLY here!

Keegan's Surgery

Before...After...
Keegan's surgery was a success. It was a VERY long 10 days of recovery but we are thankful we did it. She was such a sweetie and seems to be doing much better. Her voice is still a little different but other than that she seems to be doing well. (Tomorrow is the post-op check up so hopefully everything healed as it should. I made the mistake of looking in her throat a few days after the surgery and about passed out. I'll let the doctor look from now on...lol!)

We are so thankful to have that behind us. It is so difficult to see your children go through something painful. I have a new respect for parents who deal with medical issues for their children on a routine basis for much more serious health concerns. I don't know how they do it and my heart goes out to them. I try not to take for granted the fact that we have three healthy children. Especially with such a miracle as triplets. I hear so many sad stories about multiple birth complications. Anyway, enough of my rambling on about this. I guess I just want to publicly say "Thank You, Lord for the blessings you have given us."

Happy 2011!

Keegan, Samantha & Maggie

Maggie & Samantha

Our backyard

The view I wake up to every morning!

Our new house!

It has been forever since I updated the blog. If you are still out there checking our blog, waiting for an update, thanks for your patience! As most of you probably already know, we made the move from the city to country life this past December. Prior to that, we were consumed with making repairs to the house and keeping it clean for showings. I can’t tell you how glad I am that that is done. God was so good to us allowing the house to sell quickly and for guiding us to a new place in Rockford. We were also blessed by so many people helping us through the process as it was NOT an easy one. Moving with 3 kids is so much work but we are so thankful for the many friends and family members who helped with the overwhelming task. We still have boxes to unpack and items we can’t find yet but we are making progress.

The girls love their new house, which has also been a blessing. We were concerned that this was going to be difficult for them but they adjusted pretty quickly. The first couple nights were rough and they were pretty clingy during the daytime but we moved only a couple weeks before Christmastime so I think that helped make things exciting and fun.

In the past year, we have seen the girls personalities develop more and more. Keegan is a girly girl. She loves princesses and picks out a dress to wear EVERYDAY! She is very motherly to her sisters and is always concerned about everyone getting equal amounts, turns, etc. She says she wants to be a doctor when she is older. Samantha keeps us entertained with her antics and facial expressions. (The child can tell us a lot just with her eyebrows.) She is the leader of most games with her sisters and has no problem telling them what to do. She says she wants to be a teacher when she grows up. Maggie is a tomboy, completely rough and tumble. She loves Spiderman, Buzz Lightyear and anything sports related. Maggie wants to be a firefighter someday.

Our dog, Moby, is 10 years old now and showing his age. We were so excited to get him out to the country where he could run and explore but found out in the process of moving that he has been losing his eyesight. After a visit to the vet, we learned that he is going blind and only now can see shadows. It has been a bummer but he seems to be adjusting more and more each day. It has definitely slowed him down. He sleeps a lot more than he used to and isn’t the vacuum cleaner he once was. But we still love him and will do our best at providing a safe home for him (even if it means I can’t rearrange furniture). The good thing to come out of it is that it is teaching the girls compassion and how to look out for him (i.e. pick up their toys so he doesn’t hurt himself).

I hope to do a better job updating the blog in 2011. (If only for my dad, who I know checks it regularly.) Here are some pictures of our new house and a couple pictures of our three little wonders.

fun photos

Big Girl Beds

My dad made big girl beds for the girls, which they think are pretty amazing since they came from “Papa Fred.” The transition to actually sleeping in big girl beds has been interesting. The girls’ first night was 4/10/10. Thanks to a great recommendation, we put a gate on the outside of their bedroom door so they would at least stay in their room. Staying in their beds is another story altogether. The first week was full of late night slumber parties where they would stay up until 10:30pm (bedtime is usually 7:30pm). Samantha’s bed seemed to be the hang out spot for them probably because they could look out the front window at any activity going on our street. One night we found Maggie asleep in Samantha’s bed and the next night all three were asleep in Samantha’s bed. It was really sweet to see, but annoying during the next day when we were left to deal with crabby girls who didn’t get enough sleep. So, we are now using bribes (i.e. sucker, phone call to Grandma, etc.) to encourage them to stay in their beds. Two nights ago was their first successful night of staying in their beds. I am hoping I won’t have to continue with bribes after awhile but we’ll see.

Last night in cribs
Keegan

Samantha

Maggie

Keegan

Maggie

Sam

Keegan

Sam

Maggie

Keegan

Sibling Relationships

(me & my siblings)

Even at 2 years old, I can see different relationships developing between the girls. It is interesting to watch and makes me wonder how they will continue to develop and change over time. It is such a unique experience to be a triplet. I can’t imagine what it will be like to always have a sibling at the same stage that you are at. My experience growing up as the youngest of three children doesn’t really seem to give me much insight into what the girls’ future holds. Will three be a crowd? Will two gang up on the third? (That happened quite often in my family.) Will two be closer to each other leaving one sister out? (I hope not! I seem to always want fairness and justice; it’s the social worker in me…lol.) What will their personalities look like over time? In what ways will they be similar to each other and different?

I am very different from my brother and sister. However, growing up, I always wanted to be like my brother and liked by my brother. I always thought everything he was doing was so cool and had crushes on all of his friends. I didn’t appreciate my sister until I was in college. With her being 5 years older than me, I didn’t feel like I could relate to her. In my mind, she was incredibly smart and musically gifted – exactly what every parent would want. I thought the bar had been set too high by my sister so I decided to rebel instead. She knew from a young age that she wanted to become a teacher and she did.

My brother was also incredibly smart and gifted in a technical, fix cars kind of way. His room was full of electronic toys and devices that were taken apart to determine how they worked. Some devices were used for parts in creating new gadgets. He is one of the most brilliant people I know. He has a talent for figuring things out, which is fitting that he is an engineer. That career path is not at all surprising considering his interests as a child.

As I grew up, my career goals changed quite frequently. I loved pretending to be a teacher, hair stylist, or mom. As a teenager, I decided I would become a nurse. I actually stuck to that plan until my first biology course at college. What was I thinking? I have an incredibly weak stomach for bodily fluids. Anyway, all of my career aspirations seem to encompass the role of a mother. Despite not liking bodily fluids, I find myself in the role of “nurse” to my children, along with teacher and hair stylist :)

Growing up, I was terribly insecure. School was a struggle for me as I hated feeling different from others because I am a Christian. I dreamed about having a twin sister. I LOVED the twin sisters in “Sweet Valley High” and so wished I was one of them. They were beautiful, popular AND each had a Jeep – how much better can life be as a teenager? I always thought that I would feel more confident if I had a twin sister going through life beside me. Now having triplets, I wonder if that is how the girls will feel or if they will develop their own insecurities as every teenager does. Will they get sick of being identified by their being “one of the triplets.” They will probably long to be a singleton because we always want what we don’t have, right?

I wonder too if I am seeing snippets of what their chosen careers will be some day. Because Keegan LOVES to read books, learn things, and be an assistant in helping others, does that mean she will be a Physician/Missionary? Does Samantha have a future as an Academy Award winner because of how dramatic she can be? Is Maggie destined for the Olympics because of her love for anything sports related? Okay so those are bit drastic but still it makes me wonder.

The challenge for me is to keep my opinions of what they should do or be to myself and let them develop their own interests and passions. I don’t want to sit in the bleachers for an Olympian daughter. I don’t think my nerves could handle it. Nor do I love the thought of my daughter living in dangerous situations as she cares for other. And Hollywood, come on? But I will try to keep my opinions to myself and help foster their interests to the best of my ability. Even if that means watching sports I don’t understand or supporting them in activities like math club or chess club even though it might not interest me. So as the girls get older, remind me of this challenge if (or more likely when) you see me faltering.

The girls seem to truly love each other but they can also fight like crazy and take pleasure in upsetting one of their sisters. At times, I feel bad for them because of how they always have to share attention and toys and rarely get one on one time. But what is funny is that when we do have alone time, they are asking about their sisters the whole time. So together they can make each other crazy but ultimately they don’t like to be apart. I can only imagine that it will become even more pronounced over time.